How to Let Go of Resentment and Forgive My Ex?

I think the key to forgiving him is to realize that he is not the  same collection of cells today as he was in the past. So in effect,  you are avoiding forgiving his previous self, which may as well be another person, and for what purpose? That person from the past (the  previous him) does not exist, so you are holding a grudge against a  nonexistent thing - and why? When there are so many beautiful things and  experiences in the present, the only posture  to take toward the past is one of radical (true) forgiveness. The past  will never change, so by all means learn from your decisions, but leave  the past in the past where it belongs. As this is an unskillful quality  (not being able to forgive yourself) that has arisen, Buddha recommends  the right course of action is to abandon it, as shown in the four right  exertions.

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