Forgiveness (Khamā) Meditation by Bhante Dr. G. Chandima for Seck Kia Eenh 釋迦院 (SKE), Malacca (June 22-23, 2024) Skip to main content

Forgiveness (Khamā) Meditation by Bhante Dr. G. Chandima for Seck Kia Eenh 釋迦院 (SKE), Malacca (June 22-23, 2024)

 

1. Start by choosing a comfortable seat.

Sit upright and not too tight.

Hands rest wherever they are most comfortable.

Tongue on the roof of your mouth.

2. Scan your body from the inside to determine its weight, shape, size, and other parameters. Please make sure not to attach to the body.

3. Taking a deep breath will help to relax your body and relieve any tightness or tension.

4. Watch your breath as it arises, remain, and depart. Make sure not to watch a few breaths at once. Observe one breath at a time. Try to watch another breath only after you're done with the first one.

5. Now, let’s shift the calmness of the breath toward the forgivance.

- Forgiveness for Yourself

There are many ways that I have hurt and harmed myself. I have betrayed or abandoned myself many times through thought, word, or deed, knowingly or unknowingly. Feel your own precious body and life. Let yourself see the ways you have hurt or harmed yourself. Picture them, remember them. Feel the sorrow you have carried from this and sense that you can release these burdens. Extend forgiveness for each of them, one by one. Repeat to yourself: For the ways I have hurt myself through action or inaction, out of fear, pain and confusion, I now extend a full and heartfelt forgiveness. I forgive myself, I forgive myself.

- Forgiveness of others

There are many ways that I have hurt and harmed others, have betrayed or abandoned them, cause them suffering, knowingly or unknowingly, out of my pain, fear, anger and confusion. Let yourself remember and visualize the ways you have hurt others. See and feel the pain you have caused out of your own fear and confusion. Feel your own sorrow and regret. Sense that finally you can release this burden and ask for forgiveness. Picture each memory that still burdens your heart. And then to each person in your mind repeat: I ask for your forgiveness, I ask for your forgiveness.

- Forgiveness for those who have hurt or harmed you

There are many ways that I have been harmed by others, abused or abandoned, knowingly or unknowingly, in thought, word or deed. Let yourself picture and remember these many ways. Feel the sorrow you have carried from this past and sense that you can release this burden of pain by extending forgiveness when your heart is ready. Now say to yourself: I now remember the many ways others have hurt or harmed me, wounded me, out of fear, pain, confusion and anger. I have carried this pain in my heart too long. To the extent that I am ready, I offer them forgiveness. To those who have caused me harm, I offer my forgiveness, I forgive you.

Let yourself gently repeat these three directions for forgiveness until you feel a release in your heart. For some great pains you may not feel a release but only the burden and the anguish or anger you have held. Touch this softly. Be forgiving of yourself for not being ready to let go and move on. Forgiveness cannot be forced; it cannot be artificial. Simply continue the practice and let the words and images work gradually in their own way. In time you can make the forgiveness meditation a regular part of your life, letting go of the past and opening your heart to each new moment with a wise loving kindness.

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