Paṭisota

Common Mistakes We Make in Think 1. Planning Fallacy (underestimating how much time, effort, or resources a task will require).  Eg:   This project will take only two days,  even though similar projects have repeatedly taken much longer. 2. Overgeneralization (drawing a broad conclusion from one or two experiences). Eg:   One person betrayed me, so nobody can be trusted 3. Jumping to Conclusions (deciding something without sufficient evidence).  Eg:   He/she didn’t reply, so she/he must be angry with me. 4.  Mind Reading (assuming we know what another person is thinking).  Eg:   He/she thinks I’m incompetent. 5.  Catastrophizing (imagining the worst possible outcome). Eg: If I lose this job, my whole life will be ruined. 6.  Emotional Reasoning (treating feelings as proof of reality). Eg:  I feel afraid, therefore something bad must happen. 7. Confirmation Bias (looking mainly for information that supp...

  1.  Why is it important to learn the Dakkhiṇāvibhaṅga Sutta (MN 142)? 2.  You cannot repay if you were helped this way. —The Buddha 3. 14 Personal Dāna Offerings ( pāṭipuggalikā dakkhiṇā ) and Their Different Results 4.  7 Saṅgha Dāna Offerings ( saṅghagatā dakkhiṇās ) 5. The Four Purities ( visuddhiyo ) of Giving ( dakkhiṇā )

Common Mistakes We Make in Speech 1. Speaking without thinking 2. Speaking when we are angry 3. Interrupting others 4. Assuming instead of asking 5. Exaggerating 6. Gossiping 7. Speaking about things we don't know 8. Telling the truth without kindness 9. Being truthful at the wrong time 10. Using sarcasm 11. Bringing up the past 12. Making comparisons 13. Giving unsolicited advice 14. Talking too much or too little 15. Trying to win rather than understand 16. Using labels 17. Mind-reading 18. Speaking while emotionally overwhelmed 19. Using absolute or threatening language 20. Failing to apologize 12. Reflection Before Speaking 12.1 yadeva tvaṃ, rāhula, vācāya kammaṃ kattukāmo ahosi, tadeva te vacīkammaṃ paccavekkhitabbaṃ. Whenever, Rāhula, you are about to say something, first reflect on what you are going to say. The Buddha extends the practice of wise reflection to speech. Ethical spee...